We don't lose people

 We don't lose people at once. It happens in parts. You know it when life is falling apart. But you can never really feel it on behalf of someone, can you? The fear of not seeing your father board the train when he got off at a station to buy something for you; the fear of losing the sight of your mother in a vegetable market; the fear of reading a newsflash about an earthquake in the city of someone you love; the fear of not seeing your brother return to home on time; the fear of watching your best friend shift home; the fear of failing in a final exam; the fear of getting your wallet lost; the fear of knowing your partner cheat; the fear of watching her with someone else; the fear of watching him fall out of love; the fear of not achieving your dreams; the fear of not being liked by the new class – isn't it so real? Every one of us is always going through something or the other. But mostly, we all are going through something because of someone and someone is going through something because of us. We don't really care how much hurt or joy have we caused somebody because we choose ourselves and that I believe is how human relationships are defined. That one fight at the mart or that one hug in the backyard. That one thing you said or that one gift you gave — it always happens slowly. How far you walk with someone is defined by how many times you stopped in between because you couldn't match their steps. The father at the station; the mother at the market; the best friend; the lover — it's all the same — because we fear losing someone we love.